As I have transitioned from military to civilian life, one fascinating aspect that I have witnessed is the important role of mentorship in both sectors. This critical element of leadership development crossed boundaries and divides in such a remarkable way thus prompting me to investigate it further.
As a second lieutenant in the Air Force, I often heard of the importance of having a mentor. For all the talk and fanfare both in the military and corporate America regarding this topic, there are many who have no clue what it is really all about. I was fortunate in my first assignment as a young second lieutenant to have an incredible boss teach me what a true mentor was. Lt Col Springer modeled not only what a mentor should be but also taught me that those who wish to be mentored have responsibilities as well.
I learned more from Lt Col Springer over lunches and late afternoon office calls than I did from any other officer I served under in the military. It was evident that he took mentorship seriously and truly cared for all the second lieutenants in his command. He did everything he could to teach, coach, instruct, and chide us to be the best we could be. He set high standards and would not lower the bar for anyone, yet stood side by side with us as we developed, learned, failed, and succeeded as new officers in the military. It was truly an exciting chapter of my life and the lessons he taught me were invaluable.
I have been equally as fortunate in my transition to corporate America to be under the tutelage of Orrin Woodward. He has shown me once again what it means to be a mentor and as I have written in previous posts, I have learned more from him over our many lunch meetings or office calls than I did in all my years of college education. You can not place a price tag on that kind of real world experience. Both Lt. Col. Springer and Orrin Woodward imparted to me incredible knowledge in two drastically different fields but their approach to mentorship was very similar.
Whether in the military or in business, I have learned that accomplishing any amount of success depends on the leadership that is present on a project or task. Failure is a sure sign that a leadership void was present. Orrin often says that “Everything rises and falls on leadership” and he truly believes this as I have seen him spend more time in mentoring and developing other leaders than in any other aspect of his business. It is obvious that he values and understands the importance of mentoring leaders around him.
In the military, the best performing organizations I witnessed were the ones that had strong leaders at the top who understood the meaning of mentorship and thus mentored leaders down the chain of command to be able to handle their various tasks. Organizations that had a leadership void anywhere in that chain of command flat out failed. You see this in the business world as well. Jack Welch, the CEO of General Electric is renowned for being one of the toughest CEO’s in American history but he also knew how to develop and mentor leaders and to this day General Electric’s leadership training programs are some of the best in the nation. Leaders who emerge from that company have gone on to become CEO’s of many other companies around the country. General Electric flat out knows how to train, develop, and mentor leaders and companies around the country recognize this by trying to hire them into their companies.
Orrin Woodward has done the very same thing with the mentorship and training of leaders within his team. Records have been set, goals achieved, and industry standards and benchmarks made every year based on his devotion to developing and mentoring world class leaders around him and through out his company. As a former military officer, I participated in many leadership seminars and sat in on numerous closed door sessions for the generals and other senior leaders within the military. I honestly think that many of the bench marks Orrin Woodward has developed should be implemented within those vaulted corridors of military leadership development.
No matter what organization you work for there is always room for improvement. I think the role of mentorship is often misunderstood both in the military and in the private sector and since this is a critical aspect of the success of organizations the proper roles within mentorship need to be taught. Mentorship is a two way street. You have to be willing to be mentored and then you have to find a willing mentor. You can not have one without the other.
First, you must be an eager student and place yourself under the teaching, tutelage, and guidance of someone wiser than you. As the old adage goes, “When the student is ready, the teacher will arrive.” Far too often people resist mentorship because they refuse to admit they need help. Some are so arrogant to think they know everything and thus will not take advice from anyone. Some may not want to take advice from someone younger. Some can not admit they need help and thus miss out on the great opportunity for advancement and learning.
Once the student is ready to learn and willing to submit to the mentor, the teacher will begin their part. The student must be humble and admit that they do not know everything. Quite honestly, everyone should be able to acknowledge areas in their life where they could use expert teaching and guidance. However, in our self-centered society many people are too arrogant to admit this and thus miss out on the valuable lessons they could learn from a mentor.
Once you are ready to be mentored it does you no good to listen to the advice but not implement it into your life. It is the student’s responsibility to be willing to institute and practice what is being taught. If they fail to follow through with the advice given, they are wasting the mentor’s time and effort along with their own.
The second part of the equation is the mentor. He or she must be willing to mentor the student. This a sacrifice that must be a conscious decision made by the leader. It is truly an unselfish act for someone to take their own time to help coach another person to success. If you are a supervisor in any capacity it is a wise investment to spend time mentoring those under you. It is by this mentorship that you help develop your organization to achieve their goals and accomplish greater tasks. If you study the greatest leaders in the military or in business, each and everyone had a mentor who helped coach, teach, and instruct them to their greatness. Show me someone who refused to receive instruction in their life, who never took the advice from those who had success in their field of study who had gone before them, and I will show you a person who did not accomplished anything of noteworthiness. Success is gained by those who seek out mentorship and advice from people in life who as Orrin Woodward says “have fruit on the tree” or the results to prove they should be a mentor.
For those who wish to be mentored and want to seek out someone who can teach and coach them I would offer a word of caution, we become like the people we associate with the most. You will take on the work ethic, character, personality, and behavioral traits of those you spend the most time with. Make sure you choose a mentor who is an individual that you would be proud to be associated with and more importantly, someone that you would be proud to be like! In essence, the mentor must choose wisely the person they want to invest their time with as the student will one day be a reflection of the teacher. So too, the student must choose wisely the mentor they submit to as they will most certainly take on many of the traits and characteristics of that person.
Mentorship requires a very close and personal relationship between mentor and protégé. It requires time and effort from both parties. The teacher must patiently instruct and the student must be willing to submit and learn. In the movie Karate Kid, Mr. Miyagi makes a very poignant comment about commitment when he says to his student, “Daniel-san, must talk. Man walk on road. Walk left side, safe. Walk right side, safe. Walk down middle, sooner or later, get squished just like grape!” Mentorship takes full commitment from both parties. To achieve success, you need a dedicated mentor and student working together. A half hearted attempt on either party or worse yet, an unwilling participant will yield poor results. However, with two fully committed individuals, the mentor and protégé will both learn a great deal, strengthen their relationship, develop greater skills in the field they are studying, and the time invested on both parties will be rewarding for both.